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Maybe you’ve just come out and started dating women, or you want to explore and experiment with another side of your sexuality.  Perhaps you’re already in a committed lesbian relationship, but you want to learn how to better satisfy yourself and your partner.  This guide will help fill in the blanks and give you some helpful tips on how to spice up girl on girl sex.  We’ll have a look at different positions, how to use various sex toys, and some basic techniques to get you started.

Oral Sex and the Vagina – Know Your Way Around

You might think it obvious that a woman would know her way around her own genitals, and that she’d know what another woman would like – but these are both seldom true. It would take a lot of sexual experience to be able to transfer what feels good for you to someone else if you had never been with another woman before.

Familiarise yourself with the structure of the vagina, and learn some basic techniques for oral sex, as that is a major part of lesbian sex.  If you’re not comfortable with it, then you may have have to do some re-examining of your sexual limits before being able to have a fully satisfying physical lesbian relationship.

Tribadism

Tribadism is an odd-sounding word for something that will come quite naturally to most women in a lesbian relationship.  Also called “scissoring” or “tribbing”, it simply involves rubbing your vaginas against each other, with your legs between each other’s legs, like a pair of interlocking scissors.  This can take a while to start to feel good, but if you’re already aroused it will be instantly satisfying.

While unlikely to lead to orgasm on its own, this position is great foreplay, as it allows a lot of eye contact and touching.

The 69

While a recent survey has shown that the 69’s use has declined amongst heterosexual couples in recent years, it remains a staple of lesbian sexual repertoires.  It allows some dominance/submission, a lot of full body contact, and the ability for each partner to perform oral sex on the other at the same time – what more could you want?

The easiest, and least awkward, way for this to start is for one partner to lie on her back, and the other to straddle her shoulders.  The straddling partner then lowers herself so that her head is between the first partner’s thighs.  If you are very different heights it might be difficult, but with a bit of repositioning it should be easy to find a comfortable way for you to both have as much access as you need. Try to position yourself in such a way so that you can free a hand as well to use a vibrator or your fingers.

Standing/Kneeling Positions

Standing or kneeling positions work extremely well for lesbian sex, because they both allow a great deal of mutual clitoral stimulation, eye contact, and touching and kissing.  Try starting by kneeling on the bed, with one partner’s back against the wall.  This provides support, and allows one partner to assume a dominant role.  Using your fingers it’s easy to provide mutual clitoral stimulation, but adding g-spot vibrators or rabbits can allow you to both have powerful simultaneous orgasms – with a bit of practice.

Sex Toys

Using sex toys forms a large part of lesbian sex, and every girl should have at least one reliable vibrator in her top drawer.  Using a vibrator, dildo or any other sex toy on someone else is slightly more difficult than using it on yourself.  You can’t feel when you’re just missing the spot, or if doing something else entirely would be better.  That’s why open communication and lots of talking – or a guiding hand if you’re shy – can go a long way to improving your sexual experience.

Vibrators vs. Dildos

Simply put, a dildo is a sex toy that doesn’t vibrate.  We’ll mostly be dealing with vibrators here, because dildos require quite a bit of extra work to use, and most sex toys have some kind of vibration function these days.  Dildos do have their uses, for example as strap-ons or double-ended dildos – but you can even get vibrating versions of those as well.

The Easy Stuff – Bullets, Vibes and G-Spot Vibrators

Vibrators come in two broad categories – those meant for clitoral stimulation only, and those meant for deep internal stimulation. Bullets, eggs, balls, and small vibrators are great for clitoral stimulation – but make sure you don’t get a cheap one.  You want one with as many different functions as possible, balancing features out with power.  A weak vibrator is more likely to tickle than arouse – one with a powerful pulse function is best.

Using a small vibrator is relatively easy to do if you know what your partner likes.  Simply take what you know she enjoys during oral sex, and apply that to the way you are using the vibrator. Circling her clitoris and teasing her labia with it will produce powerful sensations if she is aroused.

Internal vibrators, such as The Rabbit, G-Spot vibrators and other penetrating vibrators are great for hitting the g-spot, and providing a powerful sensation of penetration and general stimulation. They make a great accompaniment to oral sex, as they can be used while going down on someone.  The combination of deep g-spot stimulation and oral clitoral stimulation can bring on powerful orgasms.

Using a g-spot vibrator on a partner requires a lot of communication, and being very familiar with where your partner’s g-spot is.  If you’re not sure, you can insert your fingers into her, palm facing upwards, and make a “come here” motion with them.  The rough patch of prune-like skin you feel on the top wall of her vagina is her g-spot.  This is what you are trying to hit with firm, constant pulses of stimulation with a vibrator.

The Hard Stuff – Double Dildos and Strap-ons

This is where real life diverges from porn in a major way.  Using a strap-on is difficult, and using a double dildo is something that can take getting used to but once you do it adds a whole new layer of pleasure to your sex life.

Strap-on dildos are difficult because they are not a part of your body, yet you are supposed to use them without using your hands. You won’t feel if it slips out, or at what angle it’s penetrating your partner.  This means some practice is required, as well as buying a strap-on that fits well and doesn’t slip around or chafe you when you use it.

The best positions to use a strap on are either missionary position, where you can grind your pelvic areas together, or with the receiving partner on top.  Position the strap-on so that it grinds both of your clitorises, and as long as it doesn’t slip you should be able to bring at least one of you to orgasm fairly quickly.

Double-ended dildos are much better if they also vibrate, but regular dildos will work as well.  It’s easiest to use them in a tribbing or scissoring position, where you can use one hand to support yourself and another to massage your partner’s clitoris, or your own.  Using double dildos can be greatly enhanced if you can coordinate a small bullet vibrator as well.

That should be enough to get you started.  Remember to read the resources on oral sex and finding your way around your lady’s lady parts if you’re still not too sure of yourself!